MONTREAL, Quebec, Nov. 28, 2020 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ — Wanting to be loved, and to belong, is a basic human need. It comes with the promise of physical and emotional security, companionship, and an extra pair of hands on moving day. However, there’s a delicate balance that needs to be struck between the desire to be loved or liked, and the need to be liked. A study conducted by the researchers at Queendom.com indicates that people who are insistent upon being liked by everyone they meet tend to have lower self-esteem, are less happy, and are less resilient than people who don’t seek collective approval.

Analyzing data from 12, 259 who took their Emotional Intelligence Test, researchers at Queendom focused on two unique subgroups: People who really want to be liked by everyone (“High need for approval”) and people who don’t (“Low need for approval”). The two groups were then compared on 30 emotional intelligence factors, revealing a number of noteworthy differences:

(Note: Scores range on a scale from 0 to 100. The higher the score, the stronger the trait/skill. Average scores for each group are shown.)

SELF-CONCEPT

Self-esteem
> Score for the High need for approval group: 55
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 75

Self-efficacy
> Score for the High need for approval group: 57
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 75

Self-confidence
> Score for the High need for approval group: 52
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 69

Assertiveness
> Score for the High need for approval group: 45
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 62

STRESS MANAGEMENT

Positive Mindset
> Score for the High need for approval group: 57
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 71

Contentment
> Score for the High need for approval group: 53
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 69

Resilience
> Score for the High need for approval group: 63
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 78

Adaptability
> Score for the High need for approval group: 50
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 63

SELF-REGULATION

Self-awareness
> Score for the High need for approval group: 59
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 71

Self-control
> Score for the High need for approval group: 48
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 63

Self-motivation
> Score for the High need for approval group: 55
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 72

Obsessive Rumination
> Score for the High need for approval group: 63
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 36

“There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be liked,” explains Dr. Jerabek, president of PsychTests, the parent company of Queendom. “Most people want to have friends, to be in a loving relationship, to connect with their coworkers, or to get ‘likes’ on social media posts. However, if this desire becomes obsessive to the point where you get very upset if someone doesn’t want to be friends with you, or you go to great lengths to be liked – changing your appearance, fading personal boundaries, eschewing your values or posting dangerous stunts on social media in order to get one’s 15 minutes of fame – then it’s a problem. Evidently, it’s hard to accept when someone doesn’t like you. But that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you – it’s just a case of two people, two personalities, not melding very well together. Wanting everyone to like you is simply not feasible…and shouldn’t even matter. Just focus on the love you have, even if it’s just from one other person, or a pet. Better yet, aim to love yourself more rather than seeking it from everyone else.”

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SOURCE Queendom.com